natural hair care
1 tablespoon bentonite clay
1/2 cup aloe vera juice (or apple cider vinegar)
2 tablespoons marshmallow root powder (I buy mine from here)
2 tablespoons organic honey
1 to 2 tablespoons safflower oil (or your favorite hair oil)
Stir by hand to reach the desired consistency you like. I love a soft, easy to apply mix because the means it will be easy to wash out.
Sidenote: My hair loves moisture so I pack a lot of extra moisture in this mix. Too much bentonite clay without oils can make my hair dry, and Lavish does not like to be dry! You can always make yours with less oils. One of my original recipes was made with equal parts clay and apple cider vinegar or purified water (1/4 cup of each).
This is also a great mix to use after you’ve worn braids or twists for a few weeks (or months) and want to deeply cleanse your hair and scalp.
Fresh from my Hair Affirmations board!
I love affirmations. They’re great for relaxation (meditate on one for 5 to 10 minutes) and just saying any one of them silently, is enough to cause an immediate shift in your mental state. Our mental state, or how we feel, influences what we do. As simple as it sounds, feeling good has become a luxury many believe they do not deserve. We get so used to hurrying, rushing, moving from one thing to the next, that we don’t rest in the habit of slowing down, chillin’ out, and spending time loving up on ourselves–seriously.
You can literally create, heal, change, and profoundly improve your life; increase your wealth, attract or improve a relationship, and more importantly…feel good, balanced, and totally fulfilled in each area of your life just by affirming “I love myself” everyday.
I have used many techniques and methods with clients on a variety of subjects and few of them are as effective as affirmations. I’ve used affirmations for years and as my life got busier, and more hectic, and I found myself more stressed than happy, I went back to what works…an easy, fast, powerful statement of truth about myself and others.
Use affirmations as a compliment to the joy you already experience in your life. After all, What you focus on increases and Love is contagious!
Louise Hay recommends reciting your daily affirmations in front of a mirror. Notice what comes up as you look into your eyes and state: MONEY FLOWS TO ME EASILY or I AM A MONEY MAGNET, and I AM BEAUTIFUL AND EVERYBODY LOVES ME!
To feel good it is important to clear all of the resistance, fear and limitations we put on ourselves disguised as self-criticism, tension, and doubt. Not a believer in affirmations? Practice this exercise for the next 3 days.
- Choose your favorite affirmation or create your own
- Recite it 10 times, 3 times a day (you can always do more:). For example, look into a mirror and repeat, “I love myself, I love myself, I love myself…” as if you were doing 10 crunches or squats. Exercising your mind is the equal partner to exercising your body.
- At the end of the 3 days post your results in response to this article.
Complete this exercise, post your results, and you will be entered to win one of my favorite deep conditioners – Anita Grant’s Rhassoul Clay Deep Condish. Specify which condish is your favorite in your post as well (Marshmallow, Banana, Raspberry).
Here are some of my favorite from LH to get you started:
- In the infinity of life where I am all is perfect, whole, and complete.
- I approve of myself.
- The Universe is always conspiring in my favor.
- Everything I touch is a success.
- I am One with the constant activity of Love that is always present.
- My income is constantly increasing.
- Only Good comes to me.
- I forgive myself.
- I forgive everyone for everything.
- Harmony and peace, love and joy, surround me and indwell me. I am safe and secure.
I took my twists down this morning after my lavish red wine henna treatment. My hair has fully grown back from the damage and the fullness is slowly coming in. That will probably happen over time when I’m no longer looking for it!
The photo below was taken about 6 weeks ago (December 2011). Do you notice a difference?
Let me just say that I get overwhelmingly excited with all things related to natural hair. When I start to get half low-ish on my homemade and purchased products, it’s like being a kid in a candy store all over again. What am I going to try this time, how did my hair do from the last time? Have I tried sunflower oil?
So, when it came time to pick the “must have” books in my quest to learn everything I can about natural hair, I realized just how hard this was going to be. There are lots of great books like Thank God I’m Natural and Curly Like Me that I’ve been wanting to read for a while, but I had an emergency that I needed to address…
After being natural for nearly 2 years, my hair had grown past my shoulders and was thick full and gorgeous. That was, until I flat ironed and blow dried it 3 times in 6 months. That was three times too many for my hair!
So, I wanted to know 2 things:
- what are the easiest, fastest, healthiest ways to grow and strengthen natural damaged hair and scalp?
- how do I take phenomenal care of my natural, kinky, coily hair?
Having these specific goals helped me narrow my search to books that included lots of information on healthy natural hair care and tips/techniques I could use to strengthen and repair my hair. Grow It! How To Grow Afro-Textured Hair to Maximum Lengths in the Shortest Time was the first book to pop up. With 143 positive reviews I added it and The Science of Natural Hair to my cart!
Grow It! is a slim, short book packed with information, tips, encouragement, and an honest perspective of what really makes natural hair grow to amazing lengths. The Grow It Process is a step-by-step guide for growing natural hair to longest lengths in the healthiest, most gentle ways possible. Chicoro gives her experience and recommendations of each stage which are very helpful when following the model.
I have been using the techniques from the book for 2 months and am happy with the results. I realized this while typing this post so to keep it brief and lavishly exciting, this is part one of a series on The Grow It Process.
The Grow It Model has six steps:
To detangle the Grow It Way, Chicoro suggests separating your hair into 4 to 6 sections and then loosely braiding each section.
I liked twisting better only because my hair was too “tangly” to braid. It was shedding big time and the twists worked well. The more I use this process, the more I like the loose braids. It makes it easier for me to get to my scalp and thorough cleanse and condition each section.
I also took my time with this section. I had gotten into the bad habit of rushing the detangling process. Chicoro is an advocate for preserving the hair you have for as long as possible. Carefully detangling your hair with your fingers will keep more hair on your head than down the drain. It’s also helpful to detangle under running water or with your favorite conditioner. This helps the tangles more easily separate from your hair without pulling or tugging. She goes into great detail here about when to use water, oil, or conditioner to remove a detangle, how to determine product build up on your hair and what to do when you hair does get tangled. It’s worth it to purchase the book on this section alone if you’re losing hair detangling like this:
This was after the first detangle in October with the Grow It Method. The scary part is that I’m pretty sure it would have been more if I hadn’t been as careful. Last week (December) this was how much hair I lost total from detangling, cleansing, conditioning, deep conditioning and styling! Very happy with this type of improvement:)
Some key points I took away from the detangling section of the book are:
- How you wash and condition your hair is as important as what you wash and condition it with
- Use your fingers to detangle your hair while it’s dry and again when it’s wet. She also suggests skipping the dry detangle part of the process depending on the condition of your hair. I chose to skip the dry detangle in the beginning because it seemed to add more tangles to my hair
- Get in the habit of smoothing your hair. Smoothing the hair is exactly as it sounds, you run your hands down your hair. While smoothing, Chicoro suggests paying close attention to how your hair feels. This way YOU can tell if the product is having any effect on your hair. I can tell how moisturized my hair is, whether or not I have a split end or a frizzy end, and if a product is going to work with my hair. Chicoro say s that smoothing also helps or trains your hair to grow in the right direction. When I did my second big chop, this was an even more important step as my hair started to grow.
Lavish want’s to know…